Below is a Venn diagram describing an example of the self referential titles we may assign ourselves in life as important parts of who we are. They all have a part to play in our perception of self and other as well as how we would like to grow as individuals. External titles such as "Father", "Brother", "Mother", "Sister" or "Friend" also have a part to play in our growth and perceptions of self and others but are more like relational reference points that describe our connection with one or more individuals. When relating with other in the past, I've been guilty of paying attention to the self referential parts in them that I may personally like while ignoring the parts that I don't like in order to avoid discomfort or in some circumstances avoid becoming insulted or "triggered".
When we don't consider a person in their authentic wholeness as impartially as possible we may avoid getting triggered in the present, but we then ignore potential opportunities for harmonious connection and friendship in the future. Truncated version of this information available here. .
